The Supernatural Female Hivemind Deity 11
On my last Euro jaunt I did a lot of daygame. I went out when I didn’t feel like it and I walked round, often in baking sunshine and forced myself to open girls. I noticed that I was doing some things sub-optimally and I tried to work on those a little. I had some blowouts and all the time I had a constant, ceaseless voice in my head, like most daygamers get I suspect… let’s call it “the jimjim voice” which says “this is a farce” or “this is weird” or “fuck all this, just be a diving instructor in Thailand”. I fight the voice.
I ended up having a few decent sets. I worked text game. I worked Facebook game. I had some dates and at a certain point I realised… oh yeah… i’m now praying to the Supernatural Female Hivemind Deity. I’m there with a chip on my shoulder thinking “right! I’ve really worked on this stuff. I’ve improved myself. I’ve identified weaknesses so…. come on women…. give me at least one… right?”. It’s a hilarious mental trap that I see many other intermediate gamers as well as myself fall into. You develop an expectation that somehow because of the work you’ve put in you’re now at least owed a crumb of reward, that if there were any justice in the universe then one of those leads, right, would come through and you’d get the lay. You start to develop weird mental deals with karma. You find yourself saying “ok ok karma… just give me this one lay… and I promise I’ll totally do twice the work for the next one” or “just let that one backpacker turn up DTF then I swear my vibe will totally be better permanently”.
Unfortunately I’ve discovered there is no Supernatural Female Hivemind Deity magically listening in on male pickup activity and equitably doling out the flange on a fair formula related to work put in. Plus, if there was such a hivemind it would probably loathe men who had to try and work on themselves to get girls. There is a hivemind, kind of, it’s called hypergamy and it doesn’t give a shit how hard your personal ‘journey’ has been and how many sweat-lodges you’ve visited to get in touch with yourself. It doesn’t care how many video products you’ve watched or how traumatic your whole game journey has been. It cares how attractive you are compared to other men and it cares which men other women find attractive. Daygame is designed to get round this hivemind. Successful nightgame requires exploiting it.
It’s not the difficulty of the change that gets results, it’s where the change takes you to; and praying to the game gods or the female hivemind is a bad habit as it lets entitlement creep into your game, and entitlement is a vibe killer and nothing will dry up a woman’s pussy like a bad vibe. Jesus christ bitch! The Blueprint was 18 hours long! Don’t I at least get a hand job for that?
I choose to ignore all this so the game gods had better listen…. I’ve worked really hard so far so I should at least get a lay or two from all this. If I do I swear I’ll write loads of evangelically pro-daygame posts to bring you fresh sacrifices. Deal?
I bring you fresh souls oh great one.
Sep 28, 2014 @ 16:24:45
Ok, ignoring the written bitchslap you just gave me in the opening paragraph… didn’t you sleep with 6 decent women under the age of 30 in the last year or something? So just keep doing more of the same surely?
Also I can now see that when someone is trying to do something a bit tough, it is easy for others to fall into the advice giver role when what that person really needs is people in the cheerleader encouragement role. If you are having a run of difficulty with something and your commentators are umming and aahing and doubting the approach you are taking, that is just making it more likely the subject will give up, eat ice cream, and wind up fat and dibetic in a trailer somewhere.
An ok plan executed ruthlessly is better than sitting around waiting for the perfect setup to come along.
Sep 29, 2014 @ 10:15:24
“bitchslap” is a bit extreme, a ‘mild tease’ is what I was after. A very astute comment, though, and something I’d never put my finger on: yes, I prefer ‘cheerleader’ comments (ie “i’m doing this it worked so can you”) to advice giver (ie i’m sitting at home but if I was you I’d..).
Speaking of plans I’ll be off on another euro trip in 2 weeks, this time with some differences I hope will make it more fruitful.
Oct 01, 2014 @ 07:38:37
good post
Oct 01, 2014 @ 17:43:59
BodiPua,
The fact that you envision this greater karma as a female hivemide is worrisome. It shows that deep down inside you have innergame that needs to be worked on. You see it as women rewarding you (i.e. sex) because you’ve been a good boy and worked hard on your skills. It’s a beta character trait.
women don’t give you anything. You give them a chance to explore there fantasies or a sexual adventure that they’ve been dreaming of. that should be you’re mindset, not a female God or hivemind rewarding you for being a good boy.
Oct 02, 2014 @ 12:52:56
there are two types of entitlement. there is the lazy entitlement that krauser talks about, when one of his readers wants the answers spoonfed to him. but then there is the good entitlement, the cocky entitlement, that vibe that the arrogant, smug alpha man gives off when he sees a sexy girl — that “you are mine” vibe. i tweeted something like this before, how the vibe that we need to practice giving off as that “twinkle in the eye” entitlement, that you are are mine vibe, that “i know your secret” vibe — her secret being, of course, that she is desperately horny for alpha cock, that she desperately wants to be choked and slapped and treated like a little slut, that nothing soothes her worries and anxieties like sucking on alpha dick.
Oct 05, 2014 @ 00:08:47
Ha… I do a bit of this. Only, I try my “karma negotiations” with “Sweet Baby Jesus.”
I wrote a post last month called “Baby Jesus and 14 girls” and said: “If the Baby Jesus just doesn’t want you to win… there is no arguing w/ the Son of God.”
^ Baby Jesus is my Supernatural Hivemind
…but calling it “Baby Jesus” makes me laugh, and helps me shake off that BS.
When I’m not haggling w/ the sweet, sweet 8.9 oz Baby Jesus, begging to be tossed a bone, I can usually talk myself into a “win/win” line of thinking where… “if she doesn’t get back to me, I’ll ask out such-and-such,” or “if she flakes I’m going to the pub for a beer and some pinball” (which is low pressure night for me). When I’m in that state, either way… it’s gonna be a good night.
Oct 05, 2014 @ 23:01:22
lol. like it. ‘sweet baby 8.90z jesus…’
Oct 05, 2014 @ 07:50:18
To silence these doubts, I found three things help a) situational competence through action leading to increase in long term vibe b) work on SMV and resulting increase in mastery, intrique and presence . C) Letting go and simplifying your life so you actually can do all this comfortably. I stopped reading most manosphere websites. The simple fact you decide for yourself what is the correct path and you walk it without doubt brings immense satisfaction. And you can’t do this reading new articles daily.
For eample, HIT style bodybuilding is my choice, but whenever I read other bodybuilding websites, I waste time and weaken my conviction and happiness. The same with game. Whenever I read indirect Roosh, or predominantly SMV oriented sites like Yousowould, it weakens my Torero model mindset. So I intentionally purify Badass Buddha style game and strengthen the beliefs by repeated exposure to this product. I don’t need variety of mindsets and models, just one that is good and universal. The increased conviction and lack of mental chaos far surpasses any benefits of variety. My results went up when I sat down, decided the habits I’d do to increase all parameters of SMV long term and to project my SMV, then just worked on that without pressure.
Also, psychologically it helps when you use the 100%/0% expecatation strategy where you give it your all, but when you are out of control, you expect nothing. Example would be running a perfect set but not expecting the number at the end. Also, “rejection” (I don’t really work with concept of rejection anymore) increases your frustration tolerance which raises your SMV, so it’s in fact good:-)
Oct 05, 2014 @ 23:01:43
Yeah, one of the best things I’ve done in game is stop reading stuff about game.
Oct 10, 2014 @ 04:42:14
Yeah sorry dude, I think I was being oversensitive, but then there is no tone in text. And you’d just ripped me a new one in the comments of beta2pua’s blog about non approach job fantasies. Just to be clear, I was advocating those kind of locations and jobs as a way of becoming more attractive via having an attractive lifestyle (friends with lots of free time for fun, party lifestyle, permanent vacation vibe etc).
The shit thing about that is that holiday type vacations aren’t good for daygame like bigger European cities… but if you could combine the aspects of the former with a European big city that would be ideal… just how the fuck do you do that unless you are richer or have one of those fabled “internet work anywhere you please but still earn money businesses”. Which is why I’m hoping your ventures work out and you can have the best of all worlds maybe.
Oct 12, 2014 @ 13:51:48
I had a chat about this with Tom a few days ago where it’s never certain whether the girl will flake or respond positively.
You can have the best daygame set ever and it still flake, yet have a mundane chat with a completely flat girl and have her enthusiastically text and come on a date with you. Happened to me last year with a 17 year old lol
Was cool hanging out with you mate. Lets catch up soon!